Tip #4 Falling Asleep At Bedtime

 

As you know from the last post it is super important your baby falls asleep from wide awake in their crib at bedtime. What can you do to support them as they are learning to do this independently?

You can choose one of 2 methods. Sit and support or come and go. Sit and support starts out with you at the crib side and you gradually remove your support over the course of 8 nights. Or you can use come and go where you are in the room for 1-2 minutes and then out for 10-12 minutes repeating until your baby falls asleep.

Is there a time limit at bedtime for your baby to fall asleep? The answer is no. Once you start, you need to jump in with both feet and see it through. It takes a baby an average 1 hour to fall asleep on night one. If you throw in the towel after a certain period of time, you are only teaching your baby to cry long and hard. And that is not fair to your baby! And you!

Tip #3 The Bedtime Feed

 

 

This is where all of the magic lies…. The bedtime feed has to be at the beginning of the bedtime routine. Yes, before bath and before story or song. And it does not matter if your baby is breastfeed or bottle fed. The same rule applies. And no sneaking in “the rest of the feed” at the end of the routine. It does more harm than good and your baby will associate feeding and sleeping, which is the biggest contributor to poor sleep.

Tip # 2 Creating A Perfect Sleep Environment

 

 

Here is a checklist when creating the perfect sleep environment for your baby:

-pitch dark, as dark as noon as it is a midnight
-no mobiles or devices that light up or play music in the crib
-use white noise that plays for the duration of nap and throughout the night
-use a sleep sack for naps and night time
-introduce a small lovey such as a blanket or stuffed animal once your baby can roll comfortably both ways
-no night light until your child is asking for one around the age of 2.5
-keep your child in a crib until between the age of 2.5-3

Tip #1 Appropriate Amount of Wake Time

 

Is your baby overtired or not tired enough at bedtime? We want to find that “magic window” where they have acquired enough sleep debt, but have not hit that overtired stage. Leading up to bedtime you want to have the following average amount of wake time:

3 month old- 1 hour
4 month old- 1 hr 45 min
5 month old- 2 hr 15 min
6 month old – 3 hours
9 month old- 3.5 hours
1 year old- 4 hours

Are Mornings Starting Too Early?

Is your baby an early bird?  And now with the time change…  Ugh!

 

Some babies are natural early birds, but most are not and there are many things you can do to encourage a later morning.

You might be surprised to hear it all starts with bedtime. Here is a list of must dos…

  • Ensure the bedtime feed is before bath or at the beginning of the routine and your little one is wide awake for the feed
  • Ensure baby is going down wide awake all on her own with no one in the room.  This includes not falling asleep with a soother!
  • Ensure baby is not at all overtired. Try bedtime 10-15 minutes earlier.
  • If baby wakes between 5am-6am it is best to stay out of the room if at all possible.  Seeing mom or dad is just too stimulating and now they know you are awake too, so there is usually no going back to sleep. They think it is party time!
  • Wait until a minimum of 6am to take baby out of the crib.
  • After taking your baby out of the crib, turn on the lights, open the blinds, do a diaper change and then offer a feed. Make sure baby is wide awake.
  • Ensure the room is pitch dark and you are using white noise to drown out all of those early morning noises like Dad getting ready for work.
  • Make sure nap one is not too close to taking baby out of the crib in the morning. I suggest counting the amount of wake time from 6am, not from the time your baby woke early.  If I knew I could get back into bed an hour or two after I woke, I wouldn’t mind starting my day before 6am either.
  • It can take 4-6 weeks of being super consistent before your baby’s body clock is reset and he starts sleeping in later.

Helping your Baby Adjust to the Time Change

Most adults love the extra hour of sleep in the fall and despise losing the hour in the spring. With children that all seems to change. The extra hour in the fall now means that baby is waking at 5am instead of 6am.  Rest assured, within a week, you can reset your child’s body clock to adjust to the new time.  And here are some tips to make it easier!

Get up at your usual time and start the day. Once everyone has had breakfast now go and change your clock back one hour.

The best way to make the transition to the new time is to split the difference.

If for example your little one usually takes a morning nap round 9:30, you will adjust this to 9:00 am for the 3 days after the time change. It will be a bit of a push for your child because it will actually feel like 10am, but not so much that it will disrupt her overall schedule. Do the same for the others naps.

Let’s say your child usually goes to bed at 7 PM, I recommend putting that child to bed at 6:30 PM for the first 3 days following the time change. (This will FEEL like 7:30 to your child.) And it will take about a week for your child’s body to get used to this.

If you have children over the age of two, you can put a digital clock in the room and put a piece of tape over the minute numerals, so that they can see if it is 6 o’clock or 7 o’clock, but they cannot see the minutes, which often confuses toddlers. I would just set the clock forward half an hour so that at 6:30, it reads 7:00 and I would let them get up a little earlier than normal, knowing that by the end of the week, they would be back on track and sleep until their normal wakeup time.

If you are dealing with a baby, you cannot do that. Do not rush in as soon as you hear your baby waking up, because you do not want to send a message that getting up at 6 a.m. is okay now. So if she normally wakes at 7:00am, but is now up at 6:00, you will wait until ten after on the first day, and then twenty after the next, then 6:30 the next day and, by the end of the week your baby’s schedule should be adjusted to the new time and she should be waking up at her usual hour.  On the fourth night, just get in line with the new time. So your baby is back to going to bed when the clock says 7:00 pm, and adjust naps to the correct time on day 4 as well.

How much does it cost to teach my baby to sleep?

One of the questions sleep deprived parents want to know : How much does it cost to teach my baby to sleep?

There are lots of options out there. Books, on-line programs, sleep consultants and in-home, overnight sleep nannies. With so many options available, price varies drastically.

So why pay for customized support when you could buy a book for $20.  The answer is because most people understand the importance of having a baby that is getting the appropriate sleep they need for proper growth and development. And they want to do it right the first time with professional support so they know all they have is great sleep ahead.

Many parents love their child unconditionally and want what is best for their child. Understanding that establishing healthy sleep habits at a young age will set their child up for a lifetime of great sleep. And prevent issues later related to poor sleep such as obesity, diabetes, and even cancer. Check out some very interesting research that came out recently on this topic  http://www.reuters.com/article/us-health-kids-sleep-obesity/too-little-sleep-tied-to-weight-gain-in-kids-idUSKCN1C12WY

Unfortunately, some people only focus on the initial price of sleep with the only goal of finding the “cheapest” solution. And then sadly, they do not have success, give up and just accept years of poor sleep.

The Jammy Time group of consultants thoroughly believe that working with a paediatric sleep consultant is the best option to educate families on the importance of sleep and more importantly to give them all of the tools and support to teach their child to sleep well.

Having a plan that is laid out step by step leads to less crying for your baby, less stress for the parent and overall better sleep for everyone.

There are 2 options….

On-line Sleep Course:  How to Teach Your Baby to Sleep Well This on-line course includes all of the knowledge and tools you need to teach your child to sleep well in 8 nights. You also leave with a customized sleep plan and sleep logs to carry out the plan.   Bonus material sets you up for success long term with information on nap transitions, daylight savings time, travelling and ideal sleep for different ages. With this option, the parent is responsible for implementing the plan.  Although the plan is laid out step by step and easy to follow, it does require commitment and consistency to ensure the best success. I recommend this course to parents that are motivated and want to get started tonight. The cost of this course is $197, which gives you lifetime access.

https://jammy-time-sleep-solutions.thinkific.com/courses/teach-your-child-to-sleep-well-starting-tonight

Private Consultation: A 1 hour phone call and 2-3 weeks of one on one support with daily e-mails and phone calls throughout with a certified paediatric sleep consultant.

Many parents, especially sleep deprived ones would rather just deal with a professional.  They have tried many things and are just too tired to try and figure out the right solution on their own.  This is a popular package as families love the one on one support with an e-mail every day and 4 phone calls throughout the 2-3 week support period. We are there to answer questions, further customize the plan, be your biggest cheerleader and ensure you meet your goal and have success. Prices for this service start at $497.

As you can see, the prices vary quite a bit, just as they should considering every family has different needs and budgets.

Purchasing a book can work for many families, but many run into trouble when they do not see progress after 1-2 nights or their baby does not respond the way the books says. The success rate is about 50%.

Purchasing an on-line course or program can work well for parents who are motivated to teach their child to sleep well on their own.  You receive all of the knowledge and tools you need to get the job done. These programs totally trust in the fact the parents are going to follow the plan and be consistent. Success rate is 70%.

Work with a paediatric sleep consultant and the success rate is 100%.  It is the support that helps you meet your goal and ensure you have success. And we all know the price of a full nights sleep is priceless.

Schedule a free 15 minute inquiry call at 403-374-1250.

Meet Angelina

 

 

 

Angelina De Boer
Lullababies Sleep Solutions
Calgary
http://www.lullababies.ca

What do you love most about being a paediatric sleep consultant?

The thing I love most about being a sleep consultant is being able to help families in such a fundamental way. From personal experience, I know how difficult it is to be a mother when you’re absolutely exhausted and running on empty.

What drew you in to becoming a paediatric sleep consultant?

Teaching a child to sleep is not instinctual, and I know that my services not only make families happier and healthier, they help with postpartum depression, marital discourse, confidence and overall well being. There is no person that can be their best self while they are utterly sleep deprived, and the ability to give families this gift is something that really resonates with me, and makes me happy.

If you could do anything at all, what would you do?

I would be take a round-the-world cruise! I’ve always had the travel bug, but there are so many places that I think a short visit to would be perfect! I also love boats and being on the open water, so this way to travel suits me perfectly!

Sleepless in the Summer

Is bedtime creeping later and morning coming earlier?

It has everything to do with the sun. Our body clock is set by exposure to light.  So in the summer, we naturally sleep less.  

But with children these late bedtimes and early mornings can leave you with an overtired, cranky child.

Some tips to help with sleep during the summer:

1.  A black out curtain in your child’s room will be necessary. Ideally, it is as dark in their room at noon as it is at midnight. No 5am sun peaking in there!

2.  A white noise machine is great to drown out the noise of the backyard BBQ’s that may happen after your child is in bed. You know the noisy neighbours with the loud music! 

3.  And really stick to a sleep routine the days you are at home. And then on those special days when you are out enjoying all that summer has to offer, your child will be well rested and able to take it all in stride. You still want to shoot for 80% of naps at home in the crib. Most children can handle this without too much disruption to their overall routine.

Enjoy the warm summer days, long summer evenings and sleep filled nights!